‘You’re broke’ Woman Calls Out Boyfriend For His Constant Negative Comments About Her Job, She Retorts With an Ultimatum

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 21, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back people of the internet cosmos. We love a story of a rocky relationship; there's just something so satisfying about being able to read what two people are going through, analyze it, and choose a side. Instead of concentrating on our own lives or interpersonal issues, we can easily delve into other people's problems. We love to indulge in drama as long as it's not our own. 

This brings us to the Reddit thread. In this piece, the couple has been together for a couple years. Based on the story, I'm guessing they're either teenagers or in their early 20s. Their qualms are about work and money. The woman has multiple jobs, while the guy doesn't. For a long time he's been slandering her openly, always making comments that she's broke. It comes to a head, and she snaps one day. She tells him off, and says that he can't disrespect her like this or else they're done. 

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    r/AITAH 16 hr. ago Tight Strawberry_712 AITAH for telling my boyfriend to "stop degrading me or you'll see how fast you become single"
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    I've been with my boyfriend for over two years now and In the time we've been together, I've worked 3 jobs and he's worked 1.5. I say "1.5" because he got fired from his first job a day after getting hired. I got fired from my most recent job a bit ago for reporting a coworkers inappropriate behavior and said
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    coworker and the manager are best friends but I have since been on the hunt for a new job.
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    He finally got a job a few months ago and I've been nothing but supportive throughout his journey to getting it and was so happy for him when I found out he was hired. Over the last few months, when we're having a conversation about some things, he'll call me "broke", make "jokes" about me not having a job, and say things like, "I couldn't
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    imagine not having money". Typically I'd just laugh it off as at first it didn't really bother me but it's gotten so irritating. Now I don't ask him for money, to buy me things, spend it all on me, etc and vice versa. We just do it for each other just because. I'm not just sitting on my butt not looking for another job or not doing anything that I'd get paid
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    for. I've been getting paid to babysit, clean up homes/yards, run errands, etc.
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    Anyways, about a day ago, we were in the car waiting for our food order to be completed and during our conversation he called me broke followed by his other comments about me not having a job. I finally lost it and told him to "stop constantly degrading me or you'll see how fast you become single." He got
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    quiet and I continued with, "I don't know why you do that but I'm absolutely sick of it. Not only is it disrespectful but I've never sat here and constantly degraded you for not having a job for the majority of our relationship let alone called you broke every chance I got".
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    I don't understand why he does that especially considering there was one instance where we were giving my dad a ride home and my dad and I were having a conversation about me saving my money. My dad made a joke about it which I didn't mind as it wasn't rude or disrespectful but for some reason my boyfriend
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    decided to butt in immediately after before I could even say anything to my dad and said, "I make more money than she does from working and I don't even have a job". Despite that being false, I still felt incredibly disrespected. Things got awkward for a moment until my dad changed the subject and I decided to wait until we dropped
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    him off to talk to my boyfriend about what he said. I told him that what he said was incredibly disrespectful and that he had absolutely no right to be counting the money I had in my pocket. We had a conversation about it and he stopped until he got the job he has now and started jumping at every chance to call me broke.
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    Sweets Bay 15h ago NTA, you shared your feelings and thoughts with him, and asked to be respected. Whenever someone degrades someone like this, they are not showing respect for the other person. I say lay everything out on the table for him and him as well for
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    you and see if you two have a future, or if it's better for you both to not be together.
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    Naomixbby 15h ago NTA. His "jokes" and comments about you being broke are demeaning and hurtful. Even if he intends them to be lighthearted, they clearly cross a line and make you feel bad.
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    Glaucus92 15h ago NTA. Leave him. If this is how he acts when you are actively looking for a job, how do you think he will act when something happens and you can't work for a bit? Medical emergency, family issues, etc. , how do you think this guy will act if you
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    ever get pregnant and need bed rest or need time to recover from giving birth? Is this really someone you can trust to support you at those times?
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    ililililiilliillili • 15h ago What a . You should leave him. I don't think he respects you.
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    LilOddBiDragonfly • 15h ago NTA this guy doesn't respect you. Do you really want to keep living with this?
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    PansyArianna • 15h ago NTA, it's critical to feel valued and respected in a relationship, and consistent belittling behavior is a huge red flag. It's good you communicated your feelings, but if this is a pattern that doesn't change despite your clear
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    discomfort, it's worth reevaluating if this dynamic is healthy for you. True affection means building each other up, not tearing each other down for a laugh.
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    VibesMilla 10h ago The fact that your boyfriend repeatedly makes derogatory comments about your financial situation, especially after you've supported him through his job struggles, is concerning. It's a red flag for a lack of empathy and support in the
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    relationship. His behavior indicates a potential pattern of emotional manipulation or belittling.
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